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Books by Rose Ure Mezu
Women
in Chains: Abandonment in Love Relationships in the
Fiction of Selected West African Writers (1994)
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Songs of the Hearth
(1993) /
Homage to My People
(2004) /
A History of Africana Women's Literature (2004)
Black
Nationalists: Reconsidering Du Bois, Garvey, Booker T. &
Nkrumah (1999)
Chinua Achebe: The Man and His Works
(2006)
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Of the
Passing of Mama Ezinne Bessie Chiege Iwuji Okeke
(1915--2008)
With deep gratitude to God for a life well spent, we
announce the passing away and calling to God of our most
beloved mother, grandmother, great-grandmother, sister,
and aunt, Mama Bessie Chiege Okeke, née Iwuji who was
born in 1915 and died Thursday, November 6th, 2008. She
is survived by her five children—
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Sir. Hope J. Okeke
Dr. Rose Ure Mezu,
1st Woman Commissioner
(1979-1983) for the Greater Imo State
Mrs. Anne U. Okoli
Mrs. Margaret N. Nwobia
Mrs Caroline A. Ufere |
Twenty-eight (28) grandchildren, both in the United
States and in Nigeria; eleven (11) great-grandchildren,
resident in the U.S.A.; a sister, Mrs. Ego Opara, Nene
Titi Veronica Okeke; sons-in-law, Dr. Sebastian
Okechukwu Mezu, Engr. Okechukwu Dike Nwobia, Chief
Kingsley Ufere; daughter-in-law, Lady Gertrude Ebere
Okeke; many nephews and nieces both in the United States
and in Nigeria.
Mama Bessie Chiege Okeke, née Iwuji, is a mother without
parallel. Born in Umuokoro, Amuzi, she grew to become a
young beauty in her hometown where she met and married
the love of her life, the young teacher John Oguguo
Okeke on posting to her home after completing his
studies at Emekuku. The couple lived in many towns of
the old Eastern Nigeria wherever her husband John was
posted. Then, they moved to Lagos where her husband
worked as a policeman and where they had two (2)
children before moving eventually to Port Harcourt where
they lived until the Nigerian Civil War and the sack of
Port Harcourt by the Nigerian soldiers.
Mama Bessie Chiege Iwuji Okeke as the wife of a rising
politician and businessman, she helped her husband
develop Mile 1 Diobu (D Line —Orije Layout), a new
residency town in where they had the pioneering honor to
be among the first to develop their plots of land, and
move to settle. When J. O. Okeke, as he was popularly
known, became the first Municipal Councillor
representing Orije Layout and serving under Mayor
Nzimiro of Oguta, she was there to help in many
capacities as wife, mother, hostess and business woman.
Bessie Chiege Iwuji Okeke as she called herself went
through many difficulties early in her marriage to John
Okeke. She was barren for many, many years, having her
five children late in life. Her husband John pledged to
stand by her with stalwart courage until she is able to
have children,. knowing the many heartaches and contempt
she suffered then for being childless.
| On her own right, Mama Bessie Okeke was a pioneering,
female entrepreneur—variously starting and training
others in businesses such as cake making, soap making,
cloth trading, farming, oil trading, and many other
business endeavors. She was well-loved as a Community Othermother for men, women and children came to her
for advice / help and she gave as generously as God
abundantly blessed her. Bessie Chiege Okeke was a
pioneer Christian mother par excellence, setting example
with her life and proselytizing activities. She was one
of a committee that worked and achieved the founding of
St. Gregory’s Catholic Parish, Ihitteafoukwu in Ekwerazu.
She became a mother to
Umu Mary—Legionaries,
and to seminarians who came and were fed and counseled
by her; many of them became priests, including one, a
Bishop. In 1980, she went on a pilgrimage; among the
group was Eze Acholonu, the Igwe of Orlu with whom she
formed a close bonding as the two oldest
pilgrims, visiting Lourdes, France, Rome,
Italy and the Holy Land
Rose Mezu
and her mother
Bessie Chiege |
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With Eze Acholonu, Mama would exult always that they,
the oldest and supposedly most frail, were the first to
climb to the top of Mount Calvary while the younger
pilgrims huffed and puffed behind them. So great was
their faith!
As a mother to her children, Mama was without
compeer. In time, her children and their families
became her life and passion. She cared when we were
sick; she cooked and she served, and she saved and she
gave completely of herself. If we were in trouble of any
kind, she stood by us. In return, her children,
grandchildren and great-grandchildren treasured her.
And as she went through her numerous illnesses,
accidents and overseas treatments, Mama was given the
best and most loving of all cares any set of children
could give a parent, which as she said made up for our
father who died too early to witness the successes of
his children and their families.
Mama spent her remaining years on earth cared for by
her children in their respective homes and in her own
home over which she superintended in order, as she said,
to be able to render account to her husband John when
she meets him in heaven. After an eye-operation, this 93
year-old-woman left the United States of America on
January 1st 2007 back to her home where she
lived out the rest of her days in peace.
On Thursday, November 4th, 2007, her
friend and Parish Priest Fr. Godson Okoro came and gave
her the last of many anointings and Holy Communion. He
did not know she was to die peacefully shortly
thereafter. Her family
truly thanks God for her great accomplishments, and time
well spent on this earth by Bessie Chiege Iwuji Okeke. It
is truly hard to describe how greatly all will miss
Mama’s wisdom, solid, reassuring presence, her
indomitable faith, her rollicking good humor, and her
shining love of family and neighbors. Without doubt,
Mama Bessie Chiege Iwuji Okeke died a holy death and is
a saint in heaven where, in the company of her husband
John and first daughter Bernadette, she is smiling down
on us. She will be buried in her home estate in
Umuediabali, Ihitteafoukwu, Mbaise, Imo State of Nigeria
on the 28th of November, 2008.
May the soul of
Bessie
Chiege Iwuji Okeke rest in eternal peace!
Signed
by Dr. Rose Ure Mezu, and Sir. Hope Joe Okeke
Family
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The Woman Who
Bore Me
By Rose Ure
Mezu
I came home and I
beheld her sitting down, legs propped up on
a table
I beheld her eyes
shut, face wan and frame shrunken
I beheld her and
my heart melted with so much love for her
She who bore me,
who loves me and whom I hold in reverence
She was once
young and now she is old and as I gazed
tenderly
Time sped on; I
saw the image of me several decades yet to
come
A wise friend
once spoke plaintively about his father in
waning years:
Old and blind and
helpless, it does injury to heart, mind and
sight, he sighed,
For one once
agile, vigorous and bustling to lay now wan,
weak and fragile
My voice reached her first, “It is you, my
daughter,” she said quite simply
"Rose, I always see you with the
eyes of my spirit,”
she had once said to me
She went on,
“they said you were sick. How could I have
been eating, sleeping
And not know it?”
Stretching out her hands, so emaciated yet
velvety smooth,
She beckoned to
me, “Come lie on me. Let me carry you.”
A wistful smile
came for that order I could not carry out.
How could I lie on
This
ninety-something year-old body so fragile,
so smooth, so loved!
My arms encircled
the frame of her who bore me, this dear,
dear woman
Gathering her
into my arms, I held tight her frame once
robust now diminished
“You will all
bury me as is the natural rhythm of life,”
she said to me,
“I will not bury
any of you!”—May her spoken thought be her
prayer, Amen!
The thought came
to me of John the Baptizer saying to his
Lord Jesus:
“You must
increase as I must decrease.”
This is Chiege’s
time to wait for that eternal call. It is
her time to listen. She readies herself.
I can feel it,
and she knows it, chortling: “Rose, I have
really grappled with old age.”
“So, so old you
are!” I teased. She had wrestled down old
age and become mistress of it
She never read
Dylan Thomas but she is going truly and
gently into that good night.
That Sunday, my
presence became her food. “Not hungry,” she
shooed away the platter,
“I am full of
your presences,” said she who now near death
can see with blinding sight
Yet, I fed her,
she from whose womb I came forth, and who
had fed me first.
But still I fed
her and she ate obediently, the mother who
now is my old woman child.
So goes the human
story and blessed is she who near close of
day has readied herself.
Bessie Chiege
Iwuji Okeke, matriarch, wife, mother, grand-
and great-grandmother
At the dying of
the light, the blind eyes of this prophetess
can still blaze like meteors
She who can
always see
me with the eyes of her spirit.
Yes, though blind, yet she sees!
She indeed is as
ready as she can ever be. My mother, dear,
dear woman who bore me.
Wednesday, July 30, 2008
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Bessie Chiege Iwuji Okeke
Her Story in Her
Own Words
My Ancestry:
I am Bessie Chiege Iwuji. I was
born at Umuokoro, Amuzi then in Ahiara but now in Ahiazu,
Mbaise. My father’s name is Iwuji Nwosu Nwoke Mgbaja.
Nwachukwu Ehiemene was a notable from my clan.
I married John Oguguo Keke Ekwugha
Nwokoro of UmuNwokoro, Umuonyewuzo, Umu-ucho,
Umuediabali, Umueze, Ihitteafoukwu of Ekwerazu now in
Ahiazu in Mbaise.
My mother’s name is Erikem
- Erikonye Nwagwu Iwuoha whose father was Amos Ihejirika
of Akumefuohia from Erikem, Umuerikaruru, UMUOÑAMAKA,
Amakohia Owu. Her people own Ekeonumiri market near the
C.M.S. Church, Nkwoala, Amakohia Owu. A notable
personality at the time from my hometown was
Oparachukwu Onyerima.
My Encounter, Falling in Love
and Marriage to John Keke:
In Umuodah Ngwuru, Mbaise, there
lived a rich woman called Adaoparaji Gwogwo whose mother
hailed from Umuezi, Enyiogugu, Mbaise. Adaoparaji was a
very rich trader but barren and so, she went to Obetiti
and bought an orphan baby boy called Nwalohie or
Nwalozie. She brought him up as a son. When he grew up,
he came to marry me. Nwalozie was so ugly and so small
that I refused to marry him. Nwalozie became a cattle
trader who slaughtered cows / llamas and grew very rich
himself. Yet, I could not stand the sight of him.
My own village is Umuokoro, Amuzi.
To get to it, one has to cross Umuokazi and Umuodah. My
father was Iwuji Nwosu Nwoke Mgbaja with the Christian
name of Michael even though he did not go frequently to
the church. My father was tall, very light complexioned
and dashingly good looking. And so, Adaoparaji and her
son Nwalozie concluded the marriage arrangements had
been with my father. But when Nwalozie and his adoptive
mother Adaoparaji Gwogwo took me home to Umuodah Ngwuru,
I refused to stay and ran away the next day. But they
physically brought me back and forced me to stay.
My parents’ marriage was not a
success, for my mother ran away from my father Iwuji.
She had taken me along as a baby to live in Emekuku at
the compound of Chief Obi of Ezedibia with her lover, a
man from Obodo Ujishi, Mbaise. My father Iwuji went to
Chief Obi and filed a suit to recover his baby daughter
– Me. Chief Obi and his cabinet tried the case
and I was awarded to my father who brought me back to Amuzi. My father had pleaded that since his wife had a
lover, he should be given custody of his own daughter,
for then she would be free to have children with her
man, if she wished. It was a general opinion in my home
town that girls from Umuerikaruru, Amakohia Owu
were reputed to be flagrantly unfaithful in marriage;
this charge my mother’s action proved to be true.
Thus,
my mother abandoned me as a baby and later went to live with
a new husband, a man called Ohanu who hailed from
Umuchoko also in Amuzi. It was this man who refused to
reimburse my father Iwuji for the dowry he Iwuji had
paid on my mother when he married her. My mother would
have additional three children for Ohanu, and my father
would have many more children from his other wives. And
so, I am the oldest and only child that my mother Erikem
and my father Iwuji had together even though I had
siblings of both sexes from my father and three sisters
from my mother and her husband, Ohanu. The youngest
would be called Ego and she is still alive and comes to
visit me often, as did my other siblings before they
died. Ogu was the eldest son of my Father and he died a
long time ago. So also his sister Ukwunna who married a
man from Umuezi, Enyiogugu. Eleba, my youngest brother
died a few years ago leaving very loving children who
visit me from time to time. As at this time, I must be
the oldest mgboto from Umuokoro, Amuzi as well as
from Umuediabali.
When I grew up, I was reputed to be
a beautiful maiden. Quite young, I started trading in
soaps. At the time, I was still wearing ringed rows of
beads around my hips, anklets, and necklaces. I was
forced to stay at the home of Adaoparaji as his son’s
affianced bride. To prospective suitors who saw me in
public, I would tell them that I was the daughter of
Adaoparaji who whenever she got to hear of it would
debunk the story, for these suitors came to her home
wanting to marry me because I claimed to be her
daughter. But I disliked Nwalozie, my affianced future
husband, his llamas (cows), the meat he sold; in fact, I
hated everything about him. And when I became a maiden,
I still refused to marry him. All this caused a
lot of palaver in our home and in theirs. Till today, I
do not like fresh meat.
They—Nwalozie and his family—threatened me with forced rape if they caught me walking
alone along the road. But I swore at them and cursed
myself—to die during childbirth if I was ever raped by
him, and if I ever got pregnant. So, my brothers Ogu and
Eleba took to escorting me everywhere. And Adaoparaji
and Nwalozie refused to take back the dowry they paid on
me. They insisted that if ever I am to marry someone
other than the arranged husband Nwalozie, I should move
to a place so far away that they could not encounter me
either in the marketplace or in the Church, for they
were a prominent family and did not need the shame of
being spurned and humiliated.
Remember Rose, at this
time, a father has the right to give his daughters away
in marriage to any man of his choosing; it was unheard
of that a girl would flout her father’s command. And
so, I came to be known as being stubborn. They called me
“Chiege Iwuji, Onye nma hiara di
—without a
husband because of my beauty.
As a daughter of Mother Mary
(member of the Umu Mary), I was sent to
the Catholic Church to sweep, fetch water and collect
firewood. There, I met John Keke who was posted to my
hometown from Emekuku boarding house. Paul Emecheta
from Umuofor, Amuzi was then the catechist. John asked
Paul for my name and the catechist told him the story of
my marital enchainment, for I was one of the women in
chains. I was still trading on soap, needles, and
thread. John was a very handsome man, and very tall. I
fell in love with him.
Now, my father loved me very much.
So, when I went to him and threw myself at his feet
weeping bitterly, pleading to be allowed to marry the
man of my choosing, John, my father at last relented
because of his love for me. But John Oguguo Keke would
pay double dowry for me. Immediately, John proposed to
marry me through Paul Emecheta. Next, they came together
to meet and speak with my father Iwuji. Six months
later, I agreed to marry John. Later, John came again
with a bicycle repairer from Ogbor Nguru who validated
him because he himself also married a woman from
Ihitteafoukwu.
Later, John’s half brother Kyrian Keke
came to escort me to Ihitteafokwu to visit with my
in-laws for the first time. On the road from AforOru and
Nkwoala, we saw neither cars nor bicycles except
vehicles belonging to government or to a chief. My
father-in-law Keke Ekwugha saw me and loved me, calling
me Ugwuezi—the pride of the family /
compound. Women and children came out to view me and
they probably liked what they saw, for I was lavishly
entertained by all. In the morning, Kyrian again;
passing through Nkwoala, escorted me back to my home in
Amuzi.
My marriage engagement caused big
uproar in my hometown for Umuodah and AdaOparaji took my
father to the local court house with Joseph Amadikwa
presiding, to have the dowry they paid returned to them.
My father defeated them but my father never got back the
full dowry Nwalozie paid on me because my mother Erikem
- Erikonye Nwagwu Iwuoha refused to let her new husband
release the part of the dowry which she had received for
being the mother of the bride.
Soon, the marriage
ceremonies commenced in earnest. More suitors
flocked to stop me from going to settle in this region—Ihitteafoukwu
—which my people considered at that
time to be the primitive backwoods. A little closer to
the administrative headquarters of Owerri, Amuzi town
prided itself on being more civilized than my husband’s
hometown. John Oguguo Keke had to pay twice for my
dowry; first, he paid eleven (11) pounds in order
to procure an annulment from the arranged marriage to
Nwalozie—the entire dowry of which my mother had a
part. Next, he paid an additional twenty or more pounds
for my real dowry—all paid in cowries
John now got transferred to Ulakwo
Obube. For the marriage, Kyrian, John’s half brother
brought a basket of four (4) huge yams, one stockfish
and a piece of cloth. I was quite very stylish. My
father asked John to go to Emekuku and collect the
marriage bans. Rev. Fr. Howell gave John Okeke a
teaching job, posting him to Agbaraghara Nsu in Mbaino
where we were married in 1932 with headmaster Charles
and Janet Dozie from Emekuku as our sponsors. These two
are the parents of Pascal Dozie of Diamond Bank. My
husband’s Godparent was Teacher Pius Anyamkpele of Mpam
Owerre, in Ekwerazu. He attended the wedding.
In time,
John left Teaching and went to Enugu where he underwent
recruit training. We then traveled to Lagos on an
Ajassi boat. There, John, my husband would become a
police man. Later, he was recruited also for the army
to go fight in World War II, but I was pregnant with my
only son Hope, and John refused because we had lost a
daughter many years earlier. As he said to me, “What
palaver do I have with the Germans, or with Hitler?
What if I am killed over there, would that not be the
end of my bloodline?” Bloodlines are very important
to our men, and I later, I would have our only son,
Hope.
John Oguguo Okeke whom I now called
Papa Hope loved me truly. I was the original Nwanyi
Aga—barren woman. Barrenness was like a curse.
But I flourished as a trader, and once a woman said to
me, “You go ahead and make money while I make my
babies.” You can imagine how I felt. Although I married
in 1932, I did not have a first child until 1937 when I
had a daughter called Bernadette who is now in heaven.
The village midwives handled her roughly and the soft
part of her front head (fontanel) got broken and she
caught an infection. We took her to Emekuku hospital
where she shortly died.
Then, I was barren again until
1942 when I had my son Hope. In those days, a woman
with no child was a miserable woman. Because I became
barren again for sometime, people advised my husband to
go and marry other wives. When I heard this, I started
weeping, asking him if he had exhausted treatment
options. Then, I was started on the potions and herbal
treatments, and then hospital tests. But John, my
husband assured me he would stay married to me as long
as I had no children, because if he married again, I
would never believe that he loved me. But he also told
me bluntly that he came from a line of Ogaranyas and they were polygamous by tradition; and that when
once I had a first set of children, he would feel free
to go ahead and marry because he needed many, many
children to inherit his wealth. But would you know it,
I had not only Hope, but three other children before my
husband married Titi Anyanwu, now called Veronica.
I fought him with all my energies,
but he was bent on marrying again. Rev. Fr. Flynn of
the Christ the King Catholic Parish (C.K.C.) at the time
advised me to let it go since my husband was too
stubborn. At last, John Okeke did as he wanted. He went
back home to bring the girl home. Now, I was
established in business, making cakes, farming, etc. On
the day, they were to come back home to Port Harcourt, I
dressed up in my finest damask and velveteen from ala igbe or bottom box fashion, so to say, and
then I sat on a high-backed easy chair like a queen
waiting to see this woman that was coming to break up my
home. When I saw her, my heart melted and I was sad for
her. She looked so helpless and so young. If I had had
children early, she could have been my daughter.
I said
to myself, “Poor girl! It is not her fault that her
parents are selling her for money to an older man!”
That has always been the plight of helpless girls—to
be given away to men they might not even like to marry,
or to men old enough to be their fathers, or to ugly
men. I remembered how much in my youth I had resisted
and fought not to marry Nwalozie, Adaoparaji’s ugly,
adopted son.
Therefore, I made up my mind to
make the best of a bad situation. To make ukwa—African bread fruit—the ripened fruit has to be mashed
and treshed to make the ukwa seeds clean; and then a
mother can feed her children on this delicious soft
food. I think that God allowed these trials—barrenness
and polygamy—to mash and tresh and wash me clean me so
that my life can then become the breadfruit with which
to nourish others. These trials made me strong and I did
not know that more trials were ahead in my future. Once
I decided to welcome the girl and be kind to her, I had
peace. She is a human being after all, and the
situation was not of her choosing.
Since that day, we
had lived in peace and cooked and ate as one family.
She looked after me when I had my last child, and in
subsequent miscarried pregnancies but sadly, she never
had any children. John accepted with resigned patience
the fact that Titi or Nene as she is fondly called could
not and did not have children of her. Papa Hope, my
husband would tease me for years afterwards, saying that
I had jinxed her with my prayers, but no, it was the
Lord’s doing all the way.
In 1975, he died a holy death
after reconciling with, and receiving all the last rites
of, the Catholic Church.. At the time, Titi was still
young enough to go and marry again and was so told, but
she chose to stay and had been my companion in old age
ever since. And all the children love her and she has
loved them too. Thus, I think does our good God turn
every temptation into a plus and a blessing! John Oguguo
Okeke was a strong and stalwart man. He was also a
loving father to his children. He proved his love for
me, standing by me through my years of barrenness.
Therefore, throughout our journey together on this
earth, I loved and honored him, and still love the
memories he left with me.
My father Iwuji Nwosu Nwoke Mgbaja
died in 1952 while we were living in Port Harcourt, and
I went home for his burial. In 1956, my mother Erikem
died at Eziala Ogwu at her daughter Ego Opara’s house
but she was brought back to her hometown and buried at
Umuerikonye, Amakohia Owu. She was never able to see my
children. I did not have those daughterly feelings
towards my mother Erikem because she had abandoned me as
an infant. And so for the rest of my life, I made my
husband and children my mother, my father and my all,
always following the example of the Virgin Mary and
trusting in God.
(From Interviews Conducted by
Dr. Rose Ure Mezu with My Mother on Her Early Life with
My Father – John Oguguo Okeke)—Bessie Chiege
Iwuji Okeke, December 2007.
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An Account of the Last Hours
of Bessie Chiege Iwuji Okeke,
We spoke to Ngalezi, my
mother's relation who with her daughter Ahaoma looked
after Mama. They gave a clearer account of the events
of the day she died, as follows:
On Monday, Dr. Ogoke of
Crystal Clinic, Afor-Uzi Umuohuo, Mpam Ekwerazu, Mbaise
came to check up on Mama, take her blood pressure and
draw blood for testing. He diagnosed her with malaria
and treated appropriately. Hope came on Wednesday and
made sure Mama took her medicine.
On Tuesday,
November
4th, the parish priest of St.
Gregory, Ihitteafoukwu, Fr. Godson Okoro came and
anointed Mama and gave communion. Fr. Okoro said that
for the first time since his normally routine visits to
her, he felt like anointing her. He asked her, "Mama,
would you like me to anoint you?" At the "Yes!"
answer, he did and gave her communion.
On Thursday, November 7, her
dies natalis—day of birth into
Heaven, Mama asked Ngalezi to go to her daughter's home
in Emekuku - Akwuosa and weed and clean up the compound,
take care of the Ugu she had planted while I was at
home, cut down some palm nut fruits—Nkwu—for
oil and get her some pink grapes—shadock fruit—for her. Ngalezi asked her if she would still be around
by the time she comes home, and Mama said "Yes!"
She held Ngalezi close to her heart, and Ngalezi started
to cry. Mama comforted her and asked her not to cry,
saying, "Ogadicha Nma!—All
will be well!" Ahaoma then asked her why she was no
longer praying, and Mama said she had prayed enough -
"Ekpejuolam!"
Later, around 4 p.m., Mama
asked for a priest and Ahaoma telephoned a young priest
who loved her and he came. He prayed over Mama and
sprinkled holy water over her. She asked for food—plantain fufu
and Oha soup—which she had asked to be prepared and it was brought to
her. The priest helped to feed her and even took a
photograph of Mama eating. Then, the priest left.
Ngalezi came back from
Emekuku around 7 p.m. with grapes and all. Then, she
went home. Mrs. Anna Okoli, my sister had then gone into
the village. Only the mother of Engr. Okechukwu Nwobia,
my sister Maggie’s husband, was around. At about 8 p.m.,
Mama asked Ahaoma to help her ease herself.
This was done. She asked for some water to
drink, and was given water. All along, the
girl had no idea this was the end. Mama then gurgled or
coughed as if she was about to throw up, but did not
throw up. Then, she shut her eyes and went to her God,
sitting there in her chair, near the entrance to the
dining room, there on that chair in
August where I last saw her sitting when I wrote the
poem to "The Woman Who Bore Me!"
We her family are deeply
consoled that our Mother died the way we envisioned and
prayed she would—still neat, no pain, in peace, with
full alert consciousness, in full communion with her
faith and in full reception of the last rites of the
Faith that had been her rock and anchor all her
life. She was at last ready and she knew it. It
gives all of us great hope to know that our belief and
trust in a Good and Merciful God, in His Mother Mary and
in the Saints, and our daily prayers—even
the Rosary—are
not in vain. It is a wonderful Faith
that we have received and that we practice. Call no
person good until you see the end. Mama
ended her life with a lot of grace and serenity.
Ultimately, it pays to live a good life, a productive
life and an unselfish life, doing Good to others through
love for our God.—November 10, 2008.
Dr. Rose Ure Mezu.
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Mama, I Still Think of You
You know, Mama
We kind of thought
You will live forever
Even though old, bent and a mere shadow
Of the woman you were, yet still
indomitable,
Your fragile frame packed so much substance
So much vibrant life.
Mama, every waking day, I think of you
because
So much of you was simply amazing
So much of you was so solid
So much of you so endearing
So much of you so reassuring
So much of you still enduring
You battled so hardily, so bravely
To overcome so many obstacles
We thought you were the rock of our times
That forever, you will remain
a keeper of dreams,
a
tenderer of our common garden
a nurturer of our new offspring
Now, your kind presence is to be felt
everywhere
The thought of you is in every breath we
draw
And now all know that you are a saint we
know you are
Because that about you which I knew and felt
and wrote about
That which is the very same essence of you
that
The Bishop saw
and knew
The priests
felt and testified
The neighbors
sampled and confessed
It is the haloed aura of you that friends
keep speaking about
For to all you were
compassionate
To all you were so very
wise and just
To all you were so
grandly giving
To all you were
prodigally consoling
Your life, sweet Mama, was layered like the
onion
Each layer tells a different story
Each phase marks a different phase
You near-century was prodigiously and richly
endowed
Each decade reads like a different book of
history.
To us your offspring you are so very
precious
To each you gave your all with yet more to
give
Such that each tells a different, special
tale of your love
Your talent was to make each feel so very
specially loved
Each of our faults you knew and yet, you
still loved us
So, so very fair-minded, you always spoke
the truth of things
Our memories of you, mother dearest, make of
your life
a
varied, multi-colored quilt of love
Our Mother’s love, as nearly pure as our
Maker’s perfect love
You were humble too, for you begged pardon
for all your faults
Bessie Chiege Iwuji Okeke, intercede with
the Lord for your family
To know how to be
penitent, honest, humble and lovingly
peaceful.
Rose Ure Mezu
December 2008 – January 12, 2009 |
posted 23 November 2008
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Salvage the Bones
A Novel by Jesmyn Ward
On one level, Salvage the Bones is a simple story about a poor black family that’s about to be trashed by one of the most deadly hurricanes in U.S. history. What makes the novel so powerful, though, is the way Ward winds private passions with that menace gathering force out in the Gulf of Mexico. Without a hint of pretension, in the simple lives of these poor people living among chickens and abandoned cars, she evokes the tenacious love and desperation of classical tragedy. The force that pushes back against Katrina’s inexorable winds is the voice of Ward’s narrator, a 14-year-old girl named Esch, the only daughter among four siblings. Precocious, passionate and sensitive, she speaks almost entirely in phrases soaked in her family’s raw land. Everything here is gritty, loamy and alive, as though the very soil were animated. Her brother’s “blood smells like wet hot earth after summer rain. . . . His scalp looks like fresh turned dirt.” Her father’s hands “are like gravel,” while her own hand “slides through his grip like a wet fish,” and a handsome boy’s “muscles jabbered like chickens.” Admittedly, Ward can push so hard on this simile-obsessed style that her paragraphs risk sounding like a compost heap, but this isn’t usually just metaphor for metaphor’s sake. She conveys something fundamental about Esch’s fluid state of mind: her figurative sense of the world in which all things correspond and connect. She and her brothers live in a ramshackle house steeped in grief since their mother died giving birth to her last child. . . . What remains, what’s salvaged, is something indomitable in these tough siblings, the strength of their love, the permanence of their devotion.— WashingtonPost
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Greenback Planet: How the Dollar Conquered
the World and Threatened Civilization as We Know It
By H. W. Brands
In Greenback Planet, acclaimed historian H. W. Brands charts the dollar's astonishing rise to become the world's principal currency. Telling the story with the verve of a novelist, he recounts key episodes in U.S. monetary history, from the Civil War debate over fiat money (greenbacks) to the recent worldwide financial crisis. Brands explores the dollar's changing relations to gold and silver and to other currencies and cogently explains how America's economic might made the dollar the fundamental standard of value in world finance. He vividly describes the 1869 Black Friday attempt to corner the gold market, banker J. P. Morgan's bailout of the U.S. treasury, the creation of the Federal Reserve, and President Franklin Roosevelt's handling of the bank panic of 1933. Brands shows how lessons learned (and not learned) in the Great Depression have influenced subsequent U.S. monetary policy, and how the dollar's dominance helped transform economies in countries ranging from Germany and Japan after World War II to Russia and China today. He concludes with a sobering dissection of the 2008 world financial debacle, which exposed the power--and the enormous risks--of the dollar's worldwide reign. The Economy |
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Sex at the Margins
Migration, Labour Markets and the Rescue Industry
By Laura María Agustín
This book explodes several myths: that selling sex is completely different from any other kind of work, that migrants who sell sex are passive victims and that the multitude of people out to save them are without self-interest. Laura Agustín makes a passionate case against these stereotypes, arguing that the label 'trafficked' does not accurately describe migrants' lives and that the 'rescue industry' serves to disempower them. Based on extensive research amongst both migrants who sell sex and social helpers, Sex at the Margins provides a radically different analysis. Frequently, says Agustin, migrants make rational choices to travel and work in the sex industry, and although they are treated like a marginalised group they form part of the dynamic global economy. Both powerful and controversial, this book is essential reading for all those who want to understand the increasingly important relationship between sex markets, migration and the desire for social justice. "Sex at the Margins rips apart distinctions between migrants, service work and sexual labour and reveals the utter complexity of the contemporary sex industry. This book is set to be a trailblazer in the study of sexuality."—Lisa Adkins, University of London |
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By W. E. B. Du Bois
W. E. B. Du Bois’
Arraignment and Indictment of White Civilization
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