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Now one can easily look at this and say that white women are more desirable etc, which is a cop out, with out

really looking at the other issues such as the lives of black men and black women in this world. Our history is a very

painful one which includes slavery, segregation, apartheid, discrimination, racism, colonization, and prejudice. We have

been taught that our lives are not valued, we have been taught to hate every and anything that makes us black and African.

 

 

A Rejoinder To

Black Brothers And Their White Chics

 By Chizoma Osuagwu

 

I do agree for the most part with the points made in the article Black Brothers And Their White Chics by Uche Nworah. It is common knowledge that successful and wealthy black men almost always settle for white women in England or United States. In one part this is a bit sad for me and many black women especially as an African.

I am Nigerian; I find pride in Africa and black people all over the world. It would make sense to argue that a black man that has finally made it should bring that wealth back to the same community that he left behind, and keep the circle of money within our black communities; marry a black woman perhaps from the many that stood by these men when they were nobodies. This would give such women a chance to thrive and be positive influences to other black people.

These athletes whether they realize it or not are role models to some extent, young black men do look up to them and sort of mimic their styles, dislikes and likes. They wear whatever they wear and also aspire to hang out where they hang out, in the same way, they would attempt to date the sort of women that they date. If successful black men are constantly marrying white women, it does send a wrong message across to young black men that black women are only good when you are poor, once you become someone in life then leave her for a white woman because she is better.

Now one can easily look at this and say that white women are more desirable etc, which is a cop out, with out really looking at the other issues such as the lives of black men and black women in this world. Our history is a very painful one which includes slavery, segregation, apartheid, discrimination, racism, colonization, and prejudice. We have been taught that our lives are not valued, we have been taught to hate every and anything that makes us black and African. Many black women including myself can remember growing up and being so conscious of how we looked, wearing clothes to cover our butts, and biting our lips till they bled so as not to show its fullness. Meanwhile today women line the streets of Soho and New York to get lip implants to look like ours, and butt implants are the rave of the moment thanks to Beyonce. White women now aspire to have a rounder butts, braids are now acceptable as a hair style but they used to be done only by black women as well as locks. (Who would have thought they wanted to look like us all along). But the wealthy black man would rather have a fake black woman with a bronze tan than the real deal.  

We’ve all been through it, as much as we as Africans and black people claim that we’ve evolved from the vices of past which kept us down including segregation, which led to the spread of the black liberation movement through out the world, we still have a long way to go to cure ourselves from the brainwashing and emotional wounds that still run deep in us all.

A black man that suddenly becomes successful and feels that a white woman would be his access card to a more successful career, and also provide him access to a society that he still feels he does not rightfully belong has totally lost it. A black man that does this and also feels somewhat equal if you will to the white man by feeling that ‘I now have what you have - your princess, your queen’, and the most desirable of all the white man’s prize.  This is nothing but propagating the slave’s mentally of ‘I am sleeping with the Master’s wife’; ‘I am now acceptable in society, I am some one now, I am accomplished’.

I’ve even heard some white women say that they are doing these black men a favor because at least their children would be half white, their lives a bit better than the rest. Unbelievable but some of these white women believe that by so doing, they are serving their own rude justice to the black men.

I am not prejudiced, but do not sincerely believe that every successful and wealthy black man is just falling in true love with all these white women. It is more of “let me just get a white woman” complex. It makes sense that you will fall in love with some one of the same background and similar experiences and commonalities.

Regarding Uche Nworah’s comments that black women should protest and go and grab Nigerian footballers before white women do, he should please give us a break. Does he know how many sisters that may have attempted this? These black brothers don’t even give them a chance, have they finished showing off their new white women (trophies) to the black women? This does not bother me or many black women any more; why? Because any man that does not love who he is and does not want to procreate with another that resembles him has a serious complex, an inferiority complex.

The idea that marrying a white woman is going to further their lives, and secure a better future for their off springs is wrong . I know some men that have this belief that they can wash off their blackness by siring precious mixed race children, those children grow up and marry whites and if the cycle continues, then at some point we may not have black people left. To the black sisters out there, I say let these undeserving brothers go; I do not want a black man like that, neither do other black woman I know want a black man like that. To the black brothers, if you became successful and wealthy without these white women, what makes you think that black women would bring you down?

There are so many beautiful, educated and talented black women out there. Magic Johnson who was diagnosed with HIV twenty years ago still has Cookie Johnson on his side, after he went around cheating her with all these white women and brought home a disease, was Cookie still not there for him? Let him try that with a white wife. The average white chick would want a divorce once things go wrong, and you can not provide these lifestyles anymore but the black sisters would always see it out with their black men.

An American football player is currently having a very bad divorce with his white woman,  the brother realized he made a mistake and now wants out, she’s said everything to the public, just anything to ensure her lifestyle is maintained, meanwhile the black brother was married to a black woman before and divorced and the public knew nothing about this, as the black sister maintained her dignity and pride.  The white woman of course got pregnant for the guy because that is how she could ensure that she is covered for the next eighteen years. People say black women are gold diggers but I think that white women invented the practice.

As for Kanu Nwankwo, I was proud when I heard that he came home to marry especially being from Imo state. This sort of behaviour would encourage other African footballers to know that it is okay, you too can find love with your own. It’s not just footballers or athletes who marry white chics, Koffi Anan, former secretary of the United Nations and many talented highly educated black men no longer find comfort in their own. It just shows us that despite our many achievements as black people, we still carry psychological and emotional wounds that still plague us today, they say these wounds are the hardest to disappear from our memories.

Chizoma Osuagwu, a nurse practitioner whose husband is an attorney, lives in Atlanta, Georgia. She has been happily married for the past five years to an Igbo.   

posted 8 November 2006

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